Old man and the key double dating
The two of us met when Anna answered an ad that Lily's then-boyfriend, Scott, posted on Craigslist.
And there have been multiple-partner dates, which involved average-looking East Bay residents who swing, tie up, dominate, submit, and spank. Some of the lovemaking was wonderful, a lot of it was initially awkward but got better as time went on, and some of it was downright disastrous.Besides all the rules that sensible people follow when dating online, like "meet in a public place," "let someone know where you are," and "condoms are non-negotiable," we developed our own special list for middle-aged chicks who date on Craigslist:1) A lot of men want to screw Sarah Silverman.(Three lovers told Lily the potty-mouthed comedian was their "fantasy fuck.")2) With ads for people over forty, add at least five years and ten pounds to the photo.It was a virtually sexless union for 10 years before a therapist helped her come to her senses and move on.Lily never married and spent most of her life caring for an ill parent who died recently.So she lost 40 pounds and decided she would make up for lost time.
Anna Reed is a 50-year-old who, as a young woman, had been raped and pressured into sex during the so-called sexual revolution.
She had read books on women's sexuality -- Barbach, Tisdale, Jong, Hite and Nin -- but each held only a small piece of the puzzle.
Not one of these authors could tell her as much about sexuality as her own inner life did.
Upending the notion of "Casual Encounters" -- as Craigslist dubs its "Just Looking to Get Laid Tonight" category -- we both discovered that casual sex is anything but.
Perhaps because we are highly verbal, our initial Craigslist encounters involved a ream of e-mail.
Lily told her close friends about how thoroughly she would be sleeping around, joking, "I want my vagina to have call-waiting." Now she is enjoying the adolescence she never had, dating like an oversexed high school student but armed with the wisdom and savvy of a woman in her 40s.