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Online dating for black people

Swiping through friends' dating apps gives me a legal high.

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As you'll see, the "I'm going to assume or wonder if you're this ethnicity, then say something asinine about it" technique is clearly alive and well."Men have said dumb sh*t to me about Kama Sutra," Maya B., 25, a queer woman of desi descent who identifies as a first-generation American and second-generation Indian, tells SELF."All I want is to date a respectable, professional man of any color who loves me with all my chocolate skin and rolls.What bothers me the most is the fact that I'm not given a chance."Research on the subject highlights one unfortunate fact: Black women are the lowest on the online-dating totem pole.For now, Maya's filtered her preferences on the dating apps she still uses to only see people of color, hoping to avoid some of the disconnect she's previously experienced.And when she still encounters ignorance, she has a genius game plan: "I usually wax eloquent about [things like] my work, racial justice organizing, and Black Lives Matter...until they feel overwhelmingly uncomfortable, and then I never speak to them ever again." Lots of praise hands emojis for you, Maya.An incredible clip from April of this year tackled this issue, branding it "sexual racism." Note: This is way different from having preferences.

It's about ruling out entire groups of people because of stereotypes or because you think there's no way you could be attracted to them.

In contrast to black women, who every racial group except black men rated as less attractive than average, all the men in the study rated Asian and Latina women as more attractive than average.

(And all groups rated white women as more attractive than average except black men.) Of course, people finding a woman more attractive than average doesn't mean they won't be racist to her, just that they might shift gears and do it in a different way."I went on a date with a guy from Tinder who had an Asian fetish, but I didn't realize until halfway through," Jenny C., 25, an Asian-American woman in Washington, D. "He started talking about how sexy these Asian dancers were, and I also found out that pretty much every other girl he'd seen on Tinder was Asian.

What's more, she met her current boyfriend on her first ever Hinge date after going on "probably 100 Tinder dates," she says.

So, to any women of color out there struggling with online dating, know that it is definitely possible to meet your match.

My hope is that my friends let me play romantic roulette with their love lives because they think my job affords me some top-secret dating intel.